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Letting Go Of Anger

Updated 04-Oct-2020 - First Published 09-May-2019 by Debi Douglas

Have you ever felt like just screaming at the top of your lungs? Punching someone in the face? Picking a fight with a coworker? Honking your car horn at an irritating pedestrian or motorist?

Maybe all of the above.

You have to release the built-up anger that's been brewing inside you. It's been building and building, until now it, and you, are ready to explode.

It's unhealthy to communicate feelings through explosive outbursts such as those in the above examples. Expressing anger in and of itself, is not unhealthy. It is when anger becomes hostile, offensive and harmful, then you have an issue.

Sometimes We Lose Control

Everyone, at some point, loses control. Some of us, more often than others. Frustration levels can hit the roof, and the easiest way out is to release the pressure without thinking.

This is my own theory … but I wonder, if we don't allow ourselves to release built-up pressure, the nervous system becomes highly activated and loses its control. Further, intense, frequent, and prolonged anger episodes place stress on the body to the point of climax, where immediate release is almost inevitable.

The Biological Explanation

The biology of anger
The physical symptoms of anger

Do you know anger is released not only in the mind, but also in the body?

Catecholamines are a type of neurotransmitter that can trigger an adrenaline rush. If there are suitable external stimuli, the body jumps into action and releases catecholamines.

Therefore if anger is allowed to build up, those frequent and intense explosions will be experienced inside the body.

This can lead to serious physical health problems including but not limited to, high blood pressure and cardiovascular issues.

Release Anger - Consequences or Benefits - Take Your Pick

So - the news is that some people get angry to the point they explode their anger out into the world, dangerously, aggressively, or even violently. This route to release anger has harmful consequences. People afflicted with deep-seated anger must find appropriate ways to reset their feelings.

The terrible consequences of extreme anger at work
Consequences of uncontrolled anger
  • death
  • imprisonment
  • health problems
  • physical injury
  • fired from work
  • altercation
  • car accident
  • losing loved ones
  • hateful tattoos that are expensive to remove

Why go to all the trouble to find alternative release mechanisms when the angry person can quickly blurt out or lash out to express their disgust, then feel immediately better?

Anger released in healthy ways has benefits for the family, the community and society as a whole.

Consider some of the good reasons for not doing so, that I have listed below.

There Would Be Peace On Earth!

Angry people tend to have the perception they've been wronged in some way. But living an angry life, blaming others for how they feel, never ends well.

The advantages of seeking therapy to deal with anger
The benefits of good anger management

Perhaps if the focus could be placed on a net positive outcome for all, there would be more willingness on the part of angry people to give composure and reason a chance.

The benefits of rejecting harmful anger are :

  • improved relationships
  • being understood
  • clearing the air
  • self improvement
  • feeling better about one's self
  • compassion for others
  • respecting others
  • understanding others

Let Me Help You With Your Anger Management

The Anger Management Course in which I use with my clients, is an extensive approach to helping you. You will actually enjoy the process.

You will be able to develop and apply a balanced approach where you and others are fully respected, to the point that anger is unwelcome and unnecessary.

If you are releasing anger in an unseemly manner that is ruining your life, contact me today. I will guide you out of your frustration. I'll turn your life around.


Debi Douglas
Licensed Mental Health Counselor Florida
Qualified Supervisor

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